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Donald Lynn Tompkins

Donald Lynn Tompkins died in an automobile accident May 11, 2018. Don, son of Bob and Joyce Tompkins, was 59 years old, born and raised in Ashland, NY. Don attended Colgate University and University of Arizona, graduating from Colgate. Don lived in AZ, CA, CO and NY. Business took him on trips around the world. In his 40s, Don returned to Ashland to help his mother, Joyce, take care of his Dad, Bob Tompkins. Don had continued to care for his mother, who’s health had declined, after Bob passed away. Joyce has been moved to Robinson Terrace in Stamford. Don loved researching the history of the Tompkins and Enderlin families. He enjoyed learning the history of the mountaintop. He loved to watch his great niece pitch in softball games. He was always interested in what his nieces and nephews and “greats” were doing. Don took his Mom for road trips to Iowa to visit family twice in the last few years. Don’s future goal was to raise Scottish Highland Cows. The day before Don died, his sister, Nancy, was in town, and Don was able to spend time with a Colgate college long time friend. Charlie said it well, that Don was one in a million, devoting his life to caring for his parents. Another friend said she so appreciated his quick wit and intelligence. Don devoted 15 years of his young life to caregiving of his parents. Don was buried in Pleasant Valley Cemetery, Ashland, in the Wescott Tompkins plot. Don was an amazing, loving son, an incredible brother and loyal friend to those who loved him. He will be greatly missed. There is a place in heaven for Don. Rest now, baby brother, you deserve it. 


I am so shocked and saddened to read this news. I met Don in Colorado. We dated on and off for several years. It was a very deep, very special love for me. He shared with me details of everyone in the family, I felt like I knew you all. Please give Joyce my best. Please accept my deepest sympathy. Priscilla

Priscilla Graves Jun 13 2019 12:00 AM

Don and I walked the same path in life for a while, from Colgate to University of Arizona. We were also housemates for a while, so shared many friends and experiences. I remember him most for his quick wit and passion for baseball. He is firmly in my thoughts and memories, and I feel fortunate to have known him.

Bill Underhill Nov 19 2018 12:00 AM

You are missed my sweet friend. You always put a smile on my face!

Rebecca Sullivan Aug 27 2018 12:00 AM

My thoughts and prayers are with the family.

Ruth Pelkey May 24 2018 12:00 AM

Dear Joanne, Nancy, Larry, Richie and families, My thoughts and prayers have been and will be with you. I was so sorry to hear of Don's death. I missed the accident by minutes. I give Don a lot of credit for coming and caring for his parents for 15 years. With Deepest Sympathy. Love and God Bless, Opal (I John 4:4) The Lord bless thee,and keep thee: The Lord make his face shine upon thee, and be gracious unto thee: The Lord lift up his countenance upon thee, and give thee peace. Numbers 6:24-26 (KJV)

Opal E. DeLong May 23 2018 12:00 AM

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